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priority (re-)arrangement
May. 12th, 2003 11:42 pmDecided not to do any traveling outside of the local area for the next few months at least, for the next year at most. I should also clarify something here: "local area" also including the Neighbor Islands. And this, of course, doesn't apply to deployments or classes.
However... what this decision DOES do is nix any plans for Anthrocon. I'd been half-planning for that one anyway. It may also nix a trip to Vancouver, Canada that I'd been planning for later this year. It's too early to tell if I'm going to cancel that one though.
The reason? Ever since my dad passed away 3 weeks ago, I've felt a personal (not moral, not social) obligation to stay close to, and take care of, my mom. It's a shared responsibility between myself, my sister and my brother, but given that I'm the only one that isn't married, I should be able to devote most of my free time to taking care of my mom.
I have been tempted to give up my apartment and move back in the house, except I can't do that. A few months ago, my sister converted my old bedroom into a workshop so she could work out of my mom's house and keep an eye on both of my parents. That lets me occasionally spend the night at my mom's house (though I didn't do that except for a couple of nights after my dad passed away), but I can't do it on a more long-term basis. Perhaps the million dollar question is would I have done it if I'd still had the room. My honest answer is that I don't really know. It would have been extremely tempting, though... even if it meant inconveniencing myself as far as the commute to and from work (it's faster from the apartment to/from work than it is from my mom's house).
My personal priorities before my dad passed away were something like the following (I don't really know because I never really catalogued 'em):
1. Work (most of it being on-call and available when needed)
2. Parents/Family/Friends
3. Self
Now they've been rearranged slightly:
1. Mom/Family
2. Work
3. Friends/Self
Work will float to the top if I'm needed for a deployment, real-world issue, and so on. But otherwise family will remain my number one priority until I leave. When I can, I'll make time for myself or my friends, but more than likely that will remain few and far between. After all, who knows how much time I can give my mom and family once I move?
However... what this decision DOES do is nix any plans for Anthrocon. I'd been half-planning for that one anyway. It may also nix a trip to Vancouver, Canada that I'd been planning for later this year. It's too early to tell if I'm going to cancel that one though.
The reason? Ever since my dad passed away 3 weeks ago, I've felt a personal (not moral, not social) obligation to stay close to, and take care of, my mom. It's a shared responsibility between myself, my sister and my brother, but given that I'm the only one that isn't married, I should be able to devote most of my free time to taking care of my mom.
I have been tempted to give up my apartment and move back in the house, except I can't do that. A few months ago, my sister converted my old bedroom into a workshop so she could work out of my mom's house and keep an eye on both of my parents. That lets me occasionally spend the night at my mom's house (though I didn't do that except for a couple of nights after my dad passed away), but I can't do it on a more long-term basis. Perhaps the million dollar question is would I have done it if I'd still had the room. My honest answer is that I don't really know. It would have been extremely tempting, though... even if it meant inconveniencing myself as far as the commute to and from work (it's faster from the apartment to/from work than it is from my mom's house).
My personal priorities before my dad passed away were something like the following (I don't really know because I never really catalogued 'em):
1. Work (most of it being on-call and available when needed)
2. Parents/Family/Friends
3. Self
Now they've been rearranged slightly:
1. Mom/Family
2. Work
3. Friends/Self
Work will float to the top if I'm needed for a deployment, real-world issue, and so on. But otherwise family will remain my number one priority until I leave. When I can, I'll make time for myself or my friends, but more than likely that will remain few and far between. After all, who knows how much time I can give my mom and family once I move?
